can’t break a broken heart

I was talking to my friend just ago, I have known him for around 3 years now, and he’s one other person I used to talk to a lot. We get in touch every now and then, and we play league together sometimes, but we mostly use league to get in touch and acutally talk. He asked me about my status today, and as I said long story, I was glad I could talk to him, I could get some things cropped inside me out. So my friend lets call him Deth, as he has a thing with dead and he’s fascinated about it.
(for what you should know about this conversation, it starts with a commend about my status which is: “can’t break a broken heart”)

Deth:
why do you have such an edgy quote on your status?
Me:
long story
Deth:
Wanna talk? Im here if you need it
Me:
neh I talked it out
Deth:
fair enough
Me:
comes down on boys are idiots
Deth:
umm
Me:
xD
Deth:
dafuq did I do? ๐Ÿ˜›
Me:
nothing
but basicly. there is a guy even more stupid than muddy\

(Muddy is one of our friends, I used to go out with him, which lasted around a year? we talked and talked and joked around and everything, yet he broke up with me because distance and we were never gonna meet anyways)

Deth:
dated him too?
Me:
aye most stupid reason “can’t have a relationship with you because I am not ready for one
LIKE WTH WHAT A BS
Deth:
how was the relationship before?
before he said that?
Me:
his was my bf for like 3-4 weeks then that
Deth:
oh, it wasnt too long then
but I mean
was it good? was everying ok during that time?
Me:
we had been fliritng ever since we got in touch better
so turning around each other for like 7 months?
Deth:
alright
that does sound pretty weird after all that he’d say he isnt ready
did the 3-4 weeks feel better or worse compared to that?
Me:
well he’s dealing with personal shit, and really those 3-4 weeks I was so super mega happy
Deth:
he was dealing with it during the weeks you were together?
Me:
yes
Deth:
do you think its possible he just needs time alone for a while?
Me:
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love him, still do I guess sorta, but I know I can’t hope for anything cuz that’s what he told me
Deth:
hm
Me:
And it’s just shit

Deth:
You said he just wasnt ready?
he might come back eventually and be willing to start again
Me:
Its his personal issue, I don’t know the reason, but he said he’d probarbly never be in a relationship again
I dont know
I said, I can wait
but he said you shouldn’t hope on that
Deth:
ouch
if he said that then
I feel like there may be more to it than that
theres more to it than what hes telling you
Me:
I KNOW THERE IS MORE THAN THAT
Yes
I know
I fuckingย know
and it kills me
cuz I know he doesn’t want to tell
Deth:
so thats the main problem
Me:
And I respect that
Deth:
do you want me to be bluntly honest?
Me:
go ahead
please
Deth:
I really feel that he said he wasnt ready to stop you from being as upset, he then said dont hope for it or w/e so you wont cling onto him, and that his real reason is either he just dosent love you
or he founds someone else
but again, I dont know him so I cant be certain
Me:
You know, that’s so funny, I know he loves me
cuz
he was crying when he told me we shouldn’t be in a relationship
Deth:
I feel like you shouldve mentioned that part a bit earlier…
Me:
sry XD
details
I’ve not told anyone that tbh
Deth:
thats fair enough
that does change a few things
Me:
As in?
Deth:
it could be that he feels terrible for breaking up with you for the reasons I mentioned
Me:
mmhm
Deth:
or
It could be a forced reason
you said there was personal shit too right?
Me:
yes
Deth:
Its possible hes being forced into breaking up with you
Me:
but then by who
Deth:
how old is he?
Me:
nearly 19
living in UK btw xd
I’ll be visiting him during summer
as friends
Deth:
cool
Me:
yeah
Deth:
Visit me too ๐Ÿ˜›
Me:
can;t
you know through how many shit I went
just to let my parents be fine with visiting
Deth:
fair enough
you know
we need to get a proper meet up with the marriland lot
Me:
lol
Deth:
thatd be great
Me:
xd
guy is from marr originally XD
Deth:
wait
who?
Me:
nope
personal information
I’m not sharing
Deth:
did I know him atleast?
Me:
not gonna anwser that either
Deth:
._.
Me:
anways why did you want to know his age
Deth:
well, I was thinking maybe it was a parent thing
but I guess not
Me:
neh
his mum is awesome
talked to her on the phone like like 2 min once
You know,
I just don;t know what to do with it
Deth:
If I were to put myself in his position…
Im in the position that you were in
or more so what he was in
Maybe he just wasnt ready for the long distance?
because trust me I find it painful
Me:
I guess, but
then again we snapchat like 24/7 xd
Deth:
youve got no one to hold and no one you can share things with
Me:
You can share things by voice call, you can feel the emotion over that,
But I guess
looking at it from your perspective
Deth:
not anything physical
Me:
that’s a boy thing
Deth:
and thats only half of it
half of the whole relationship thing I mean
Me:
Go on
yeah
Deth:
because really
we all fell in love with some pixels or some sound coming out of our speakers
theres a person on the otherside but we cant experience it fully

Me:
You know you’re really depressing right now
Deth:
Im depressing myself trying to talk about this
Me:
I can imagine
Deth:
because im going through all my thoughts with you
Me:
Thank you
Deth:
this is how I feel about my own relationship
and I feel like it can apply to your’s too
Me:
Then go visit your gf
Deth:
Japan…
Me:
I guess so
rip
at least the UK is close
Deth:
funny thing though
I call her Kat for short too ๐Ÿ˜›
Me:
LMAO
Deth:
just an odd coincidence
Me:
what’s wrong with you
xd
I guess, only 4 months till I will see my friend
Deth:
I have a while ago
she’s visitng me eventually
Me:
That’s awesome
Deth:
but theres the saving up part
Me:
yup

Deth:
anyway, my guess for you
Me:
I got my parents so far they pay for my travelling
๐Ÿ™‚
Deth:
I think itll get better once you meet up with him in person
Me:
I really don’t know
I really really don’t
I wish I did
Deth: (about his gf)
Because the one thing I want to truly make me happy
is to actually be with her
and I cant be until that happens
Me:
aww
Yeah
Deth
you still talk to him?
Me:
Except the fact I get my joy and happiness from small stuff
I never stopped talking to him
I was mad yeah
for sure
Deth:
good, dont
Me:
but
I will never
He’s one of the best friends I currently have
Deth: (about his gf)
something that happened
with me
I broke up with Kat for a bit because of the reasons I just said and that it pained me to get too attatched to her
but then I realised I needed her
Me: (about my friend)
And although we might not talk every day I still love him, I enjoy the conversations we have so much, I can talk to him about funny stuf, but also about the shit I’m going through myself. And that
it what makes me most happy. Being able to talk to him every time I would want to
Deth:
yea, thats what makes it nice
just make sure you dont lose him
Me:
I know he’d respond, whether it takes 1 minute of 2h cuz anime
I’m not planning to
But sometimes I just can’t handle it
Then I just sit by myself hugging by teddybear
Deth:
yea I get that
Me:
It’s depressing
Every time I find something I long for, it gets taken away from me
Deth:
Im like you in a way, and possibly like him in others
Me:
Who knows
Deth:
as long as it dosent turn out to be a dude, I think ive found the person im looking for
I dont expect it to be tho
Me:
that’s awesome
I wish I could say the same
It’s so much annoying though >C
I’m already dealing with personal shit, and then dealing with this on top of that
While I’m supposed to study and pass exams and look fine for the outside world.
………..
Skipped a part here because it’s irrelevant.ย 

Deth:

Anyways
You talking to him now?
Me:
He’s at work
Deth:
Ah
Me:
we snapchat back and forth during the day tho
Deth:
Let’s learn about eachothers people ๐Ÿ˜›
Me:
๐Ÿ˜›
Deth:
So yeaa
What’s he like? ๐Ÿ˜›
Me: (about my friend)
He’s funny
has a good sense of humor
loves anime
But
Even though you can joke around with him
he’s serious on the right times
He listens to you
he gives me advise over things I strugge with
Deth:
That’s fair enough
Me:
I doesn’t tells me to shut up, even though I talk quite a lot
*sigh*
Deth:
That’s a first probably :p
Does he play league?
Me:
a first what?
aye
Deth
When do I meet him? ๐Ÿ˜›
17:37
~Skipped a part about him talking about his gf~
Deth:
She treated me much nicer than most
We started talking more and more
And here we are sexting on a daily basis :p
Me:
lmao
~Skipped a part here~
Me: (about the sexting)
haha dw about it
me and him did a sorta like thing XD
Deth:
I’m definitely not someone who can judge xD
Me:
XD
GOOD
Deth:
Send nudes? ๐Ÿ˜›
Me:
lmao
Deth:
I mean did one of you?
Idek
I tried asking for them but got rejected af
Me:
LMAO
Poor you
Deth:
Yea :c
Me:
lucky me
very much lucky me
Deth:
Wait you got nudes?
Me:
XD
Deth:
Wow
Lucky you

So basicly, this conversation today, it made me sad, I mean, what my friend suggested it made sense? Well in the context it did. But I am certain that my friend told me the truth no doubt about it. But hearing my friend say this made me doubt and I just sort of found peace with myself because of it? I don’t know what to do with it anymore…
I guess my mind is lost, forever or never I don;t know at all..

Only time will tell, please tell me am I right, am I supposed to have faith, since I have or am I just stupid and is Deth right, I’m having faith in my Brittish friend (mentioned as friend in the above) I don’t know what to do with it, I can’t keep it out my mind, it’s bothering me and I don;t know…..

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Guess it’s settled

So yeah, I’ve had such a busy week, incredible. I did things for 8 days nonstop. No wonder I was so tired I fell asleep every time I got home.. And then yet still not being able to sleep at night lol, feels bad for me. But in the end I survived it. Simply because I like being busy, yeah, being busy is amazing. I can’t really describe it, I just love it. It clears my mind.

So guess what, yup, I’ll be visiting my Brittish friend in England. I’m excited for it haha. I definitely am! We’re gonna watch a great movie, my friend is actually waiting to watch it so we can watch it together, which is cute. <Don’t tell him I said that> I don’t really know what else we’re gonna do. I’m planning on bringing my ds so we can at least do some gaming, maybe playing on the wii U as well. I dunno, guess we’ll see.

Remember I was pissed off about my friend. Well, last week I figured it out. I can deal with it for now. Doesn’t mean I’m still hurt from the inside. But I can see the bright side. Things are easy. They are clear for me, maybe not for others, but they are for me.

It’s not impossible to see you know. I’m just friendzoned, yeah I think I can call it that haha. You know, I’m fine with it. <still dieing from the inside> well, I should say, my mind is fine with it. My reasoning is fine with it. I mean, my friend, he already past the part of my idea that he’s just a regular friend. He’s past the part he’s a close friend, but then again also not. I mean, I dunno how, but that Brittish guy somehow managed to pull pass walls, walls only Pengi was ever able to reach. Because she is amazing.

So basicly, what I’m trying say, what my mind says me. Yes, I’ll come to England. I’ll have fun, I’ll see a person I concider my best friend I have online currently. It is fun. I love talking to him, laughing and anything. I don’t know, I just do. So I definitely know I got a great friend.

For me, my mind and my logical thinking it’s settled. I can only move forward. I can only be the person I am with my friends. So everyone who is a part of that is lucky. And it’s a small circle, just this friend, Pengi, Coon, Yogi a little bit, but that is it for now.

Yet there are other people I care about. But I don’t really trust them as I do with those 4. Especially not the way I trust Pengi and my Brittish friend. Those 2 and also Coon, have seen me on my worst, and on my best. I know Pengi me on my worst, and she just accepted it without questions.

I think my Brittish friend is the same. I mean, he managed to listen to a conversation I had with my mum in Dutch, so totally not understandable, just because I was talking to him earlier on. I guess that’s trust, keeping up with this. That’s when I decided this friend is totally worth it. No matter what comes from it, he has a place in my heart. A friendship I’ll never forget, no matter how it ends.

I think that’s the most valuable thing for me right now. That I’m able to count on those important persons in my life. That they are here when I need them. That they give me advise, yell at me, but mainly make me laugh with funny pictures on Snapchat or just my love-hate bro-sis relation with Coon. It’s how I live, it’s my life, it’s busy, it’s good. And I love it.

Love

This weekend was truly an experience on itself. Even though I was slightly busy with rehearsel and giving a concert, I somehow managed to keep talking to my British friend.I mean, the concert was amazing, but just hearing his voice and laughing and spending time, I wouldn’t want to miss that for a single day.

So yesterday evening, or I actually should say this morning, since it was around 1-2 am or so, he actually asked me to be his girlfriend. I never doubted a second there, since yes I do love him. It’s funny how it got to this.Somehow we were just a bit cirkling around each other, but talking quite a lot, and also snapchatting. I just didn’t really have an idea what would come next, so I wanted to let it flow over time, lets see what would happen, hoping for the best outcome.

So apperently he got in a conversation with one of his friends, while we were just chatting as well, and just enjoying each others company. But the topic girlfriends came up, and his friend didn’t believe he had had a girlfriend once, and he didn’t believe he currently had a girlfriend. So my friend told me this:

well i said you after he said he didnt believe i had one

I thought that was so fucking cute, I mean, he just accidently said that, I don’t even mind right now. We never really talked about the boyfriend girlfriend thingy though, and he brought that up, but I just told him that I guess I was his girlfriend now then.

At that point I was just really really really happy, like happy as I’ve never been before. But my friend felt sad cuz he kind of felt wrong the way it all happened, he definitely didn’t want to ask me over chat. To be honest I thought that was rather cute, but I just told him he could do it the proper way if he really wanted to, which resulted in me getting a call, in which we talked for quite a while even after.

I mean, I’m still super happy, I could jump like a hole in the air and I’d still have too many energy, but I’m also quite scared, what do feelings do, is it really just that easy a girl and a guy liking each other like that. Sometimes I really think it is, but then love is everything expect logic, and I’m a mathematics student, so logic is my best resource when it comes to making desicions. But what I do know is that I’m love, just my stomach can tell you. Everything is going to be worth it, I just know it already.

Star โค

Stories for life

Today when I woke up, I had this incredible stomach ache. And it’s not like I don’t know where it comes from, simply because I’m a girl. I’m literairy cheering for my period… The BEST thing ever. It sometimes even makes me able to do anything at all. I’ve had days I just wanted to lie down in bed and cripple in my pain, except for the fact, I won’t..

Maybe staying up till 3 AM isn’t the best idea either then, but it is just too much fun not to. Just talking to one person for over 3-4 hours, sharing stories, memories and whatsoever, I am really enjoying it. Knowing what you experience from laugher to serious talk, I wouldn’t want to miss that in a hunderd years.

Talking to my British friend is just amazing, the topics go about saving money, up to books and even meeting up in a few years. Or we just snapchat and sometimes you hear the other person burst in laughter because of one of the snaps you got sent. I think in around the 3-5 overnight conversations we’ve had until now, I’ve just enjoyed them so much. I can just tell him things that bother me, and he’ll listen and give his view about the topic in general.

I’ve also been writing on a story this week. Maybe this will be the story that I will actually publish, simply because everytime I start working on it, I get this amazing idea of where that chapter needs to go, and I’ve never had such a concrete idea about how I wanted it to go, and who the main character would be. You know, I’ve been wanting to be a writer for ages. But I just had a feeling writing fantasy doesn’t earn you enough money to be able to travel the world. I mean, you will when you are famous and everything, but I’m just one person. I will just need to write that one book then, but I just do it for fun.

The stories I write are special for me as well, simply because I dream of them. If they’re good, they become their own worlds in my mind, living in a dream, telling me bedtime stories, and thinking about them actually makes me able to sleep fast. It’s because they are wonderful, they might not be for others, but definitely for me, and it’s amazing. You can see it from such a thing as escape from reality.

 

Friends

You know, today my British friend, he joined a speak channel on my NA’s friend server because I wasn’t allowed to leave Yogi and his friend apperently. So since my online friends usually don’t really get along I really didn’t know what to expect.

It turned out they came along quite well! Well, quite embarrasing for me, but still! They got along well. And all my “secret stuff” got revealed. I mean, not really secret but more like I never mentioned it to Yogi and Coon? Holy crap when My British friend just started talking like he always did, haha like Yogi said, wait not even said he yelled at me for whatnot and everything. Yet still thinking about it makes me laugh so much. I am literary just crying from laughing at the moment.

So in the end Yogi ended up facebooking Coon about what he just got aware of. I knew I was totally doomed at that point, but according to Yogi I was ย beyoned doomed when Coon would read his message. I think I was a little bit, since he was quite curious and everything, but in the end it was fine, (or at least it is so far) .

I just hope Yogi and Coon realise I’ve grown up and am not that little girl I once was anymore. I mean, c’mon let me flirt with the persons I want to, I am old enough to make my own decisions. I don’t get why they have to make such a fuzz about it, just because I’ll always be “their baby sis”, at least that’s what Pengi told me.

Yea, Pengi, I’m glad I got to talk to her as well, I explained her what I thought and she really agreed they were just being overprotective, but at the same time I know Pengi is overprotective as well, but in a different way, since she has always been trying to shield me from the bad things, like people raging, she actually told one guy he wasn’t allowed to during the time we played, and that’s so cute! I mean, she’s always had a hard time showing feelings, but she told me once she loved me, so I’m just never letting her go, she’s and she’ll always be Pengi and nothing is going to change that ever.